At times we can get stuck in unhelpful patterns of relating that are beyond the arguments at hand. It's usually not about the dishes, the chores, or the dog. It's about not being heard, not feeling like priority, or not feeling appreciated. Those are the patterns of experience that usually repeat in relationships and need to be worked on in therapy. In my work with relationships, I focus on exploring these patterns and triggers while processing emotional experiences, and needs. I also teach you ways to engage in compassionate communication. My goal is to share concrete tools so that couples, partners, and relationships can reconnect on a deeper level, feel truly heard, and begin communicating and listening in ways that are respectful, more loving, and supportive.

As a therapist, I am very neutral and work systemically, which means that I will aim to understand how everyone plays a part in keeping repeating patterns. I does take two to tango! My trauma-informed background allows me to understand how past trauma influences your current relationship; we work on processing those and healing the parts of the past that are showing up today.  

I work from a relational perspective and use attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method to understand a relationship's emotional and behavioral dynamics and increase intentional communication, intimacy, and emotional regulation. If you have gone through betrayal, feel disconnection, or engage in high-conflict relationships, we are definitely a fit.

I also work with ethical non-monogamy, poly relationships, and I am sex and kink positive!

Working with couples and relationships is one of my greatest passions!